Where does your circle give way?

Seven questions, answered as yourself, about the person you find hardest right now. Nothing you tick leaves your browser; there is no email box.

1. When someone close to me is in a bad mood, what happens in me?

I feel I have to fix it I feel I have to explain myself until they see it my way I want to be somewhere else None of these

2. I said yes to something I did not want to do. Why?

It was easier than the fallout I had already decided how it should go and this kept it on track I said yes to end the conversation and did not turn up None of these

3. Someone tells me what I am feeling.

I assume they are right I correct them, firmly, until they agree I go quiet and leave it None of these

4. I would feel like myself again if…

they were happy with me they would just listen I could get away from all of it None of these

5. The last time I was angry with someone, what did I do with it?

Nothing, I swallowed it I made my case, more than once I cut contact None of these

6. How often do I know what I want before I know what they want?

Rarely Always, and I usually know what they should want too I know what I want and it is usually to leave None of these

7. When I picture holding a line with the person I find hardest, what does my body do?

Drops, folds, goes small Tightens, readies for a fight Backs away, goes cold None of these

Before anything else. If you are frightened of someone at home, or someone controls your money, your movements or your children, this programme can help you keep yourself, but it cannot get you out. Speak to the National Domestic Abuse Helpline (0808 2000 247, free, 24 hours) or, in immediate danger, call 999.